John and Jeremy have no connections 4 years ago. Just social media friends.
We have grown to be trusted friends. I would let John stay at my house for a week if he was in Houston.
I have begun texting a group of guys each week so that I am being intentional about building relationships. I schedule that text early in the week so that I know it is going out.
“Look for beauty wherever you are, and keep the memory of it with you.”
For John, this page of Only One You reminds me to keep the memory of the good moments or wins or championships for when times are tough (tough teams, injuries, coaches, etc.)
This line speaks to me to not take pictures of everything, but be in the moment and take a picture in my head. create the moment instead of focusing on the perfect shot
“Blend in when you need to. Stand out when you have the chance.”
John: Leadership Capital – Know when to speak up but know when you sit back and listen. For me, those that stand out have egos. This never helps with relationship building.
“Let others speak your praise” – Kevin Parker
“Find your own way. You don’t have to follow the crowd.”
Jeremy: When I started in 2012 there was maybe one other sports medicine podcast focused on Athletic Trainers. I did not sit back and wait for someone else to start one. From October 2013 through October 2019 there have been over 524,00 downloads of the Sports Medicine Broadcast.
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“Personal development as professional development.” – Kent Games
“Know when to speak; know when to listen.”
This goes back to “blending in” Speaking is important but only after you have all the information. Listening is the most important aspect of leadership.
Mark Knoblauch told me: “The ATs who get angry and get into arguments are the ones who are usually inexperienced and have a need to prove themselves.”
Or there is the Fight Club quote: “Most people do not really listen they only wait for their turn to speak.”
“No matter how you look at it, there is so much to discover.”
Both John and Jeremy agree “One of the things I’ve learned doing this podcast is that; there is always more to learn. Every time I think I've figured things out, I realize there’s something else I need to know.
“If you make a wrong turn, circle back.”
John likes this quote from Only One You. He knows mistakes happen in our daily and professional life. Leat's learn from them and “circle back.”
Repeat podcast guest Brandy Currie says reflection is key and she does it daily.
Then there was the time my son dropped a googly eye into his ear…our circling back was to buy an otoscope.
“If something gets in your way, move around it.”
Jeremy: Usually when I am given a rule my first thought is how can I get around this… not always the best way of thinking, but I tend to look for other options.
John: Realize things change, schedules change, obstacles will occur but relax, detach, adapt and overcome.
This is another opportunity to reflect and circle back on how things can change and listen to all of the details before speaking.
“Set aside some quiet time to relax and reflect every day.”
John: This is one of the most important things to me in that every day I get time to myself. Most of the time I have to make it whether that’s getting up at 4am to work out or scheduling time on my calendar to actually sit and read. We also covered this with “Learn to Say No” and Prioritize and Execute.
John LOVES to read, so sometimes he wakes up early, goes to the gym and rides the bike so he can sit and read
“Appreciate art. It’s all around you!”
Have fun during games, enjoy the small things and enjoy when your athletes achieve their goals.
“Make wishes on the stars in the nighttime sky.”
John: Have a vision, set goals create your value.
Jeremy: Take time to look up and see the stars. The small things that are always there. Do not look past what is in front of you.
My wife does this with our youngest…just sits back and watches.
I often ask my family to not say I can not wait until “_______” is over. there is way too much to miss.
Closing out Only One You
“‘Thanks for listening,” mama said.
“We hope you will remember.” Papa winked and whispered, “We know this is a lot for you to think about.”
Adri did a backward somersault and smile. He was excited to go out into the world with what he had just learned. “‘Wait for me!” he shouted to his friends.
Before he swam away, he turned back to his parents and said, “I will remember.”
Mama kissed Adri on the top of his head. “There is only one you in this great big world,” she said. “Make it a better place.”
“Today, when leadership is discussed, we usually purport to be discussing what leaders do, rather than what they say, as if this were a more clear-eyed approach. The truth is that when we look closely, we see leadership as much in what our leaders symbolize as in what they accomplish.
Whatever the case, our obsession with leadership seems to be constant, if not growing.
The mythology of leadership, however, will be a growing source of frustration if we don’t come to some more clear-eyed sense about why this is so and why it matters to us.”
A quote from ‘Leaders; Myth and Reality’ a cornerstone as we discuss Leadership Myths.
What about Leadership Myths?
We wrongly believe that what happened in one leadership instance can be replicated in another. This leads to the three myths, which helps us navigate the understanding of leadership.
The first of the three is the “Formulaic Myth.”
Ignoring the reality that leadership is contextual, we feel that leaders stick to a strict checklist, leading to success.
The Second is The “Attribution Myth”
When we view leaders in hindsight we see that their vision or mission can far outweigh those that surround the leader themselves.
Third Leadership Myth: Results Myth
Delivering results is all that's required for positions of power and accolades
Learning to say no can literally set you free. A friend of mine typically responds to requests with, “However I can help.” As Athletic Trainers, we are in the service business, so we tend to say YES to everything.
I was asked recently, “Jeremy, would your coaches fight for you to stay employed here?”
I am trying to find ways to be helpful and to build relationships without taking on someone else's job responsibilities. I am learning to say no. But am I learning to say no gracefully?
About Dr. Kenneth Games
On his website, Kent Games describes himself as a breakthrough, leadership, and transformation coach.
After nearly ten years working in healthcare and higher education, he decided to fulfill his vision and pursue a career helping others identify and fulfill their life's dreams, desires, and visions.
Learning to Say No
For many, leadership may imply the imposition to say yes. Yes to new tasks. Yes to new projects. Yes to more jobs and gigs.
Last year we learned with the Dichotomy of Leadership that a hard line on one topic can cause you to burn the candle at both ends, resulting in burnout.
Tribe of Mentors – Tim Ferriss
A Tim Ferriss podcast highlighted the “no” responses to his invitation to participate in his book Tribe of Mentors.
Tim asked hundreds of entertainers, athletes, CEOs, speakers and guests what makes them tick.
His “no” responses were so graciously worded, that he put them in the book anyway! It was a way to highlight how some power brokers eloquently decline invitations to projects.
John reads a couple of these responses throughout the podcast.
What are some practical steps?
Dr. Games discusses the importance of acknowledging the invitation and showing gratitude, as evidenced in his automatic email reply.
John Ciecko also discusses how he recently took his email app off his phone to allow him to be more present.
For John and Dr. Games, this contributes to a reduced feeling of anxiety because he is not constantly checking and waiting for something to pop up.
In the AT facility
“I can give you five minutes of my time right now. If you need more than that, you will need to come back in one hour (or when the practice rush is over).”
After hearing this, I discussed how we can implement it into our daily practice to better serve each athlete who trusts us with their care.
Why YOU should Learn To Say “No”
To give your attention and energy to the situations that deserve it.
If an opportunity does not line up with your “why” and your value system then gracefully say no.
Dr. Kent Games – Kenneth.Games@indstate.edu Twitter: @GamesKenneth Instagram: @KentGames
John Ciecko – email@example.com Twitter – @JohnCiecko
John Ciecko joins the Sports Medicine Broadcast to help us understand some of the Mythology surrounding leaders in our leadership in AT series 2.0.
What is the Mythology surrounding leaders
Our cornerstone book this time around is by General Stanley McChrystal: Leaders Myth and Reality. You can pick up a copy using my affiliate link below if you are like John and like to mark up and sticky-note books.
Or you can try Audible and get a free book or hit up the public library and see if they have it.
What is leadership today?
Leaders are the subject of constant scrutiny… and study. Too many of us are seduced by the mythology of what good leadership looks like… and we miss the reality. As a result, our models for identifying, educating and evaluating leaders falter or feel incomplete. We intuitively know that leadership is critical to success in the modern world, but we don't really understand what leadership consists of.
Prolouge from Leaders: Myth and Reality
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Where is the rest of the Leadership Series?
Leadership Mythology – John and Jeremy
Learning to Say NO – Dr. Kent Games
Bad Leaders – with Dr. Rene Shingles
Heroes – Kevin Parker
Three Myths of Leadership – Tory Lindley
Only One You – John and Jeremy
What is the book about:
This book is a take on the Roman historians Plutarch (’Ploo-tark’) “Lives” where he compares and contrasts different Greek and Roman figures.
McChrystal pairs and examines 12 different “leaders” as well as the life of Robert E. Lee, the leader of the Confederate Army during the Civil war.
Our favorite sections of the book
John likes Coco Chanel
Coco – “Creative and innovative people must rely on others to sustain their vision.”
“We seem to follow leaders who put the mission first because we all make trade-offs and life is rarely simple or idealized. We want to be happy in our work, athletes also want to win, soldiers want to survive the battle and businesspeople want to prosper. – We sometimes take a leader's vision over their style.”
Jeremy enjoys the historical account shared throughout the book.
Takeaways from last year:
Educating Others (my job, my expectations, my intent…)
It is easy to NOT take ownership
It is easy to keep the status quo.
Be prepared for anything – the start of year expectations
Applying knowledge from a book is hard for me without some sort of book study group and “seeing” what it looks like
Many ATs have moved on to Administration. Ross Cooper is an Athletic Director and Athletic Trainer for Detroit County Day Schools.
John Ciecko gets to the point to figure out how he got there and how you can follow Ross's path.
Here are a few key points from Ross Cooper
Experienced ATs already perform many of the duties of an Athletic Director
You have to be willing to get out of your comfort zone
Exposure to multiple leaders and leadership styles is beneficial
Self-Reflection is crucial
Relationships with each person are important – never know who is watching
Be a good listener
Ross also mentioned he took the schedules and policies and made them all digital. Using a system like Dragonfly MAX can help an Athletic Trainer reduce paper work, streamline the PPE process and improve communication with coaches, parents, and athletes